Marriage

As part of our discussion on the Manhattan Doctrine, we struggle with the impact of failed marriages on children. Which of the following factors is the most important to helping a child succeed when a marriage has failed and why?
1. Economic Status
2. Culture of Family
3. Parent(s)/Child Relationship
4. Support Structure of Parent(s)

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6 Responses to “Marriage”

  1. pablo Says:
    January 31st, 2010 at 10:22 pm

    I think 2,3&4 are allwrapped up together, nut 1 is of no consequence.

  2. pablo Says:
    February 1st, 2010 at 9:10 am

    What happened to my first comment?

  3. pablo Says:
    February 1st, 2010 at 9:12 am

    I see. It’s awaiting moderation! I’m woefully behind the curve on this!

  4. jeannie dunham Says:
    February 1st, 2010 at 11:07 am

    this site seems to be working well from this end… thanks
    My belief is that the relationship between the cild and the parent, with whom he lives, is the most important thing. Especially if the child is in his/her teen years. Smaller chiildren seem to have to go along with what the “adults” choose.

  5. Pastor Jeanette Says:
    February 1st, 2010 at 3:50 pm

    I think that the parent/child relationship is the most essential. Ideally this means with both parents. Within this relationship the child must be assured over and over again in a variety of ways and times that the divorce is not the child’s(children’s) fault. The parents are adults and they are responsible.

    The relationship needs to be free of coaching the child to disdain or hatred of the other parent. It is always essential to remember that the child is made up of both parents and to degrade the other parent is in some way to hurt the child. Truthful information can and must be given only at the appropriate time and only when asked by the child. It is not necessary to tell the child what is wrong with the other parent - The child will grow up and make judgments for him or herself. The adult must find other people - friends, counselors, pastors, to vent, express pain and anger and seek healing.

  6. Penner Says:
    February 1st, 2010 at 6:03 pm

    I agree Pastor Jeanette. I’ve seen cases where a child has been raised in poverty by a single parent and there has been success. I’ve also seen children raised by single parents with a different cultural background than ours and there too I’ve seen success. The relationship between parent and child is one where both parents, even though not working together as a family unit, must work together for the child. This means that both parents take on the role of parenting. One can not be the disciplinarian and the other a “friend.” While it’s not ideal to raise a child in a single parent home, it’s also not impossible!

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