Comments on: Marriage http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/index.php/2010/01/11/welcome/ Sat, 4 Sep 2010 21:32:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Penner http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/index.php/2010/01/11/welcome/#comment-7 Penner Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:03:37 +0000 http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/?p=533#comment-7 I agree Pastor Jeanette. I've seen cases where a child has been raised in poverty by a single parent and there has been success. I've also seen children raised by single parents with a different cultural background than ours and there too I've seen success. The relationship between parent and child is one where both parents, even though not working together as a family unit, must work together for the child. This means that both parents take on the role of parenting. One can not be the disciplinarian and the other a "friend." While it's not ideal to raise a child in a single parent home, it's also not impossible! I agree Pastor Jeanette. I’ve seen cases where a child has been raised in poverty by a single parent and there has been success. I’ve also seen children raised by single parents with a different cultural background than ours and there too I’ve seen success. The relationship between parent and child is one where both parents, even though not working together as a family unit, must work together for the child. This means that both parents take on the role of parenting. One can not be the disciplinarian and the other a “friend.” While it’s not ideal to raise a child in a single parent home, it’s also not impossible!

]]> By: Pastor Jeanette http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/index.php/2010/01/11/welcome/#comment-6 Pastor Jeanette Mon, 01 Feb 2010 19:50:00 +0000 http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/?p=533#comment-6 I think that the parent/child relationship is the most essential. Ideally this means with both parents. Within this relationship the child must be assured over and over again in a variety of ways and times that the divorce is not the child's(children's) fault. The parents are adults and they are responsible. The relationship needs to be free of coaching the child to disdain or hatred of the other parent. It is always essential to remember that the child is made up of both parents and to degrade the other parent is in some way to hurt the child. Truthful information can and must be given only at the appropriate time and only when asked by the child. It is not necessary to tell the child what is wrong with the other parent - The child will grow up and make judgments for him or herself. The adult must find other people - friends, counselors, pastors, to vent, express pain and anger and seek healing. I think that the parent/child relationship is the most essential. Ideally this means with both parents. Within this relationship the child must be assured over and over again in a variety of ways and times that the divorce is not the child’s(children’s) fault. The parents are adults and they are responsible.

The relationship needs to be free of coaching the child to disdain or hatred of the other parent. It is always essential to remember that the child is made up of both parents and to degrade the other parent is in some way to hurt the child. Truthful information can and must be given only at the appropriate time and only when asked by the child. It is not necessary to tell the child what is wrong with the other parent - The child will grow up and make judgments for him or herself. The adult must find other people - friends, counselors, pastors, to vent, express pain and anger and seek healing.

]]> By: jeannie dunham http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/index.php/2010/01/11/welcome/#comment-5 jeannie dunham Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:07:10 +0000 http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/?p=533#comment-5 this site seems to be working well from this end... thanks My belief is that the relationship between the cild and the parent, with whom he lives, is the most important thing. Especially if the child is in his/her teen years. Smaller chiildren seem to have to go along with what the "adults" choose. this site seems to be working well from this end… thanks
My belief is that the relationship between the cild and the parent, with whom he lives, is the most important thing. Especially if the child is in his/her teen years. Smaller chiildren seem to have to go along with what the “adults” choose.

]]> By: pablo http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/index.php/2010/01/11/welcome/#comment-4 pablo Mon, 01 Feb 2010 13:12:04 +0000 http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/?p=533#comment-4 I see. It's awaiting moderation! I'm woefully behind the curve on this! I see. It’s awaiting moderation! I’m woefully behind the curve on this!

]]> By: pablo http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/index.php/2010/01/11/welcome/#comment-3 pablo Mon, 01 Feb 2010 13:10:48 +0000 http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/?p=533#comment-3 What happened to my first comment? What happened to my first comment?

]]> By: pablo http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/index.php/2010/01/11/welcome/#comment-2 pablo Mon, 01 Feb 2010 02:22:01 +0000 http://www.dickinsonchurch.org/?p=533#comment-2 I think 2,3&4 are allwrapped up together, nut 1 is of no consequence. I think 2,3&4 are allwrapped up together, nut 1 is of no consequence.

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